It’s been almost 10 years since my brother started using cocaine. His usage got really bad 2 ½ years ago....
It’s been almost 10 years since my brother started using cocaine. His usage got really bad 2 ½ years ago. Before that he only binge on cocaine over a weekend or whenever he was on holiday. Because of the way he used his work never suffered. He had no problems keeping his job and because his every cent didn’t go towards a habit, he had a nice place and always paid his bills. Also because of this he never thought he needed help. He also managed to convince our parents he didn’t need help.
I was constantly trying to make them understand that he’d never stop using completely and that he needed help. As soon as I got them to agree to help me get him help, he’d convince them that he wasn’t using anymore and that he had it handled.
So, 2 ½ years ago that changed. He started using every day, his work suffered and everything else went downhill pretty fast. Then, 2 years ago he was arrested and boy was I happy. Which sounds bad but, I was so happy because, finally everyone else understood he needed help. He called me from jail and I called our parents, got their agreement to not bail him out unless he was going to rehab. He agreed to that, our parents bailed him out and he went straight from jail to rehab.
For the next 1 ½ he was in and out of rehabs. He’d check himself in and he’d do good while he was in a program. Then a week, maybe two at most after finishing his program he’d be back using. Before going to AFR he was in 5 different rehabs over a 2 year period and he wasn’t doing any better.
Then, our parents came across A Forever Recovery and it was a really good find. They showed me the website, told me a bit about the program and I started getting excited about him going there. We started talking to him about AFR and explaining to him why going to AFR would be better than the other rehabs he’s been to.
That by going to A Forever Recovery he would be able to choose his own program. That’d he’d have people working with him who understood drug addiction incredibly well. Not because they’d gone to school for it or because they’d worked at a rehab long enough to think they understood. No, AFR has staff who understand addiction so well because they have their own histories and experiences with addiction. Not everyone who works at AFR has a history as a drug addict but, enough of them do that I knew my brother would feel comfortable there.
He went to AFR 5 months ago and from the very beginning he did better there. Because he had those staff members who understood addiction like they did, he was more willing to talk about his problems and whatever experiences he had because of his addiction to cocaine. He was more open about everything because he wasn’t worried at all that he was being judged by anyone.
He did great there too. Since his arrest he’s been trying to get sober. I know that. The desire to get sober and stay sober is there. The ability wasn’t there though. Going to AFR gave him the tools he needed to get and stay sober. No matter how long.
He got home 3 months ago and he’s still sober. Which is a big accomplishment. He’s never been sober this long since he first started using almost 10 years ago. Now, he not pretending or lying about doing okay, he really is doing okay. He’s not pretending or lying about being sober, he really is sober. Since going to A Forever Recovery, every day is better for him. Every day he has more control over his life and his decisions.